Amber Soletti, founder of On Speed and Singleandthe
“Being older, you’re more successful and established, while he’s still climbing the corporate ladder or even getting a career going,” she says.
We asked three relationship experts to weigh in on the rule - and their responses were surprising.
Relationship expert Susan Winter said, “I find it amusing that there’s an equation for the ‘optimal’ age gap in love.
Ever heard of the rule that men should date women who are half their age plus seven?
Some celebrities - think Leonardo Di Caprio - take this to extremes with a roster of 20-something models regularly appearing on their arm, but do you know where the saying comes from?
In some cases, the guy is just drawn to a woman who takes care of him, but beware that some men may be true gold diggers looking for a free ride or to be taken care of financially, she adds.
Being the breadwinner may not matter to you if, say, he makes an amazing dinner every night so you don’t have to worry about cooking or he’s a great handyman and has updated your entire apartment, but only you can decide that.
While formula’s seem as though they have some kind of scientific credence, the truth is that two resonant souls will find each other (regardless of their ages).” Whether there are any rules we should follow when looking for a potential mate, Winter said, “Rules no longer apply - there are no rules in love except to follow your heart.” Cute.
“Socially speaking in the western world, women have been granted liberty to unite with men five to 15 years older without anyone batting an eye.
Conversely, when a man chooses an older mate he’s apt to encounter judgement and discrimination,” Winter told us.