At first, it seemed exciting creating profiles on and Plenty of Fish and immediately getting loads of messages.
Some friends have implied that as I’m also approaching 40, I shouldn’t be worried about sex or physical attraction.
But I refuse to accept that companionship is all I have to look forward to, even at the ‘advanced’ age of 38.
And while I obviously ditched the dating sites while I was seeing Jack, I’m now on the verge of reactivating my profiles.
However, that initial burst of optimism has worn off – is it really worth dipping my toe in the water again?
In fact, a single-mum friend was seeing a guy who used her ‘lack of spontaneity’ as an excuse for sleeping with someone else.
Now when I spot the word ‘spontaneous’ in a man’s dating profile, I swipe left.
Gradually I introduced him to Josh, and I also felt like I could trust him with my post-baby body.
That’s another part of hook-ups I’ve found difficult – someone who isn’t the father of my child (and therefore has no obligation to be kind) seeing my body.
In reality, the things I want are fantastic nights out followed by lots of sex – but sadly they didn’t seem to top his list of priorities.