Still, she insists, they were married for 47 years and their many partners never strained the marriage.Their quest for this perverse Utopia started in 1968 when — inspired by Atlas Shrugged, the libertarian thinker Ayn Rand’s novel about industrialists who drop out of an oppressive society — Williamson gave up his electronics firm and his wife threw in her insurance sales job.
You’ve mentioned one of her friends has tried dropping you hints about her past.
The only way knowing everything about one’s spouse’s past life can help is in tackling nosy outsiders like this friend, eager to spill the beans and laugh as the two of you shred your married life to pieces.
Incidentally, one of her friends visited us and hinted that my wife is “not as simple as she pretends to be”. That kind of probing is guaranteed to make any relationship worse.
As of today I’ve planned to post questions about her past relationship(s) in the confessions page of her school. However, there’s another aspect to this in your case.
This disturbed me deeply and we’ve had innumerable discussions about this since then. Recently others in the family eavesdropped on us and unfortunately managed to listen in on some of our private conversations regarding this issue, i.e. This was deeply humiliating and painful for both of us.
At a very early stage I’d started suspecting that my wife had had sex before marriage.
I understand it might be impossible for you to convey this to your parents in as many words.
If that’s the case, tell them politely (not in front of your wife, of course) that if they have any questions about your wife, they can ask you, not her, and not in front of her.
She hasn’t confessed anything about any sex before marriage to this date in spite of my insistence.
Whenever I ask her anything about this she gives vague replies, urging me to move on and look at the future instead of the past.
Hence it’s your responsibility to make sure she doesn’t receive unwarranted treatment from them.