I understand that to a certain extent, but am frustrated because I always try to smile and be friendly to people.
I think you just need to figure the way of getting dates that works for you and run with it. But the thing is, being asked on a date may happen by chance, but who the hell wants to just sit back and wait for life to come to them?
Go out and grab your date by the balls and make him want you.
Do you think I need to make some changes, or is this just something I’m going to have to deal with?
— Intimi-dating ART: You are doing zero things wrong. I had no idea what that meant, but I think it had something to do with the fact that I was/am shy, that I can tend to furrow my brow when thinking which makes me look angry, and that I can come off as distant because of these things.
But I think the main problem here is a more universal one: we all have our challenges in finding people to date.
We’re all too picky, not sufficiently picky, we come off as assholes when we’re not, we come off as nice when we’re actually assholes, you name it.
As a fan, something took over me and I introduced myself to him with little more than a smile, my name and some words of appreciation for his work. Kelsey stood up, asked me about myself, introduced me to his wife and thanked me sincerely from stopping by. She was very warm and chatty and shared her story with me as to how she got started in the culinary business. Most people -- including famous people -- are cool! Sometimes, if you make the first social move and say hello, you might be eradicating two people's nerves. You are giving power to your ego when you worry/overthink. Or as Arianna Huffington calls it, the "obnoxious roommate in your head...
Similarly, I introduced myself and asked a bit about her and her work. When I shared that he does come across as a little aloof he was surprised as it is the opposite of his intention.
In high school I was told I was intimidating (my senior year! Also, as you can see from my picture, I’m supermodel handsome.
I did all the smiling things, I did all the compliments and engaging in conversations.
So last year I found out from a girl at a party that quite a few girls think I'm attractive yet they think I am intimidating.