"This emotional distance is not usually the result of the cheating itself but more from the guilt of cheating, and perhaps even self-respect issues for their actions.Remember, cheating is the act, not the cause." Bring it up! "For instance: your girlfriend, who never shaves her legs, starts shaving her legs everyday; or your boyfriend starts working out like he expects to win a gold medal at the summer Olympics." If either of these things are happening, now is the time to nip things in the bud and have a talk.If your gut is telling you that something is off, pay attention and bring it up — stat.
"If you notice a change in phone habits — like suddenly on silent all the time," that's not a good sign, Marina Sbrochi, IPPY award-winning author of Stop Looking for a Husband: Find the Love of Your Life tells Bustle.
Or if their phone goes off but they never answer if you're there.
Normal questions are met with hostility and paranoia: Yeah, something probably isn't right.
"When your partner gets off the phone and you ask, 'Who were you talking to?
' and they respond with hostility like, 'Why are you always so nosy?
' or 'I can’t believe you don’t trust me,'" something is up, and it's not your imagination, relationship coach and therapist Anita Chlipala tells Bustle. "You may start doubting your own sanity, but if you’re getting this kind of attitude when you haven’t before, it’s highly suspicious," she says.
"You want to look for a change in routine from the norm, especially if your partner is spending less time with you." And if that's the case, don't brush it under the rug."Emotional distance is a great indicator of infidelity," dating expert Noah Van Hochman tells Bustle, elaborating on Chlipala's thoughts.
"Time and fatigue can be causes of a cooling off in a relationship, but emotional distance usually occurs when someone has for the time being checked out of the relationship in one form or another." And that is never good.
That said, sometimes people can be unnecessarily suspicious of their partners, and that's not fair.