The worst thing in the world is to wonder if your partner is a cheater — and if you're wondering, you're probably looking for signs that he or she is cheating.Trying to seek out these clues is pretty much the second worst thing in the world, because no one wants to be doing recon on their partner, and even fewer of us want to feel as though we don't trust our partners enough to even go down this dark rabbit hole of doubt.Normal questions are met with hostility and paranoia: Yeah, something probably isn't right.
"But lying tends to be a compulsion — and those who lie tend to limit it to just one," she says.
"So if your partner is habitually keeping things from you, cheating could easily be one of them." If you're not part of your partner's daily life, it's time for a real talk.
Accusing someone of cheating is a serious thing, and should only happen if you're really, really sure — not if you're feeling a tad insecure.
But if you think your inkling is real, here are 11 ways to tell if your partner is cheating.
But why are you snooping around your partner's computer?? Snooping will never, ever help anything."If you catch your partner in one hurtful lie, chances are that's not the only one," life coach Kali Rogers tells Bustle.
"Each couple can create their own rules for privacy, so having a locked phone or a password protected computer doesn't signify anything." Again, being paranoid about your partner cheating will do exactly no one any good.
If your gut is telling you that something is off, pay attention and bring it up — stat.
It doesn't have to be that they're on it all the time, but if something feels different about your partner's phone use, uh oh.
"If you notice a change in phone habits — like suddenly on silent all the time," that's not a good sign, Marina Sbrochi, IPPY award-winning author of Stop Looking for a Husband: Find the Love of Your Life tells Bustle.
Or if their phone goes off but they never answer if you're there.
"Having an affair, whether emotional, physical or both, takes time.