Potential Hazard Ahead: Contrary to the often repeated advice that we should all try to be “interesting” to talk to, the real key to building strong and viable relationships is NOT to be "interesting," but to be "interested" in others.If you feel like you know a lot more about what she likes and who she is than she knows about you after the first date, it may be an uphill battle to get a reciprocal balance in the mutual caring arena later on.Potential Hazard Ahead: It can be a lot of fun to hang out with someone who likes to take the proverbial “path less travelled,” but when they don’t like where it leads them and they look for someone else to blame for their decision, it may indicate that when things go wrong, you might end up the scapegoat more often than you’d like.
If you are as engrossed in the game as he is, this might be a good thing.
If he leaves you feeling like you’re already on the losing team, you might need to decide if you want to go into overtime or just admit defeat and cut your losses.
Then when all of her demands are seemingly met, she complains that the foam isn’t thick enough or the soy milk is too hot.
Potential Hazard Ahead: When someone reels off a long list of demands to her server, she may also be the kind of person who makes unspoken demands on a partner.
She orders a third whiskey sour before the second is finished or she pointedly doesn’t drink, but her eyes follow every beer the server delivers to other tables.
Or she checks her phone incessantly – even during lively conversations between the two of you.
Someone who expects her steak done to exactly 143 degrees is likely to expect the same kind of willingness to please from a boyfriend or partner in her life.
He makes great eye contact, he’s warm, compassionate, laughs at your jokes, and makes you feel like he is definitely “second date material.” Then he explains that he’s still getting over his most recent break-up.
You meet up for a cup of coffee as a “pre-first date” meet-up, and instead of inviting you to talk about yourself, she spends the hour telling you all about herself.
Potential Hazard Ahead: Unless you were feeding her the questions and she was giving you the answers, it’s likely that her interest in herself will always outweigh her interest in a boyfriend’s life.
Potential Hazard Ahead: People tell you what they want you to know about them.