Potential Hazard Ahead: People tell you what they want you to know about them.
Potential Hazard Ahead: Contrary to the often repeated advice that we should all try to be “interesting” to talk to, the real key to building strong and viable relationships is NOT to be "interesting," but to be "interested" in others.
If you feel like you know a lot more about what she likes and who she is than she knows about you after the first date, it may be an uphill battle to get a reciprocal balance in the mutual caring arena later on.
If you are as engrossed in the game as he is, this might be a good thing.
If he leaves you feeling like you’re already on the losing team, you might need to decide if you want to go into overtime or just admit defeat and cut your losses.
You meet up for a cup of coffee as a “pre-first date” meet-up, and instead of inviting you to talk about yourself, she spends the hour telling you all about herself.
Potential Hazard Ahead: Unless you were feeding her the questions and she was giving you the answers, it’s likely that her interest in herself will always outweigh her interest in a boyfriend’s life.
He admits to being a “sensitive guy,” and you realize just “how” sensitive when he casually mentions that the break-up happened eleven months ago.
Then he confesses that your smile or your hair or your laugh or whatever reminds him a little of the ex.
Remember that wanting to change someone is a lot different than being with someone who WANTS to change.
He’s unnecessarily rude to your roommate or your mom or other drivers or people you pass on the street.
He just can’t manage to stay focused on you and the conversation or the meal or the film or the music longer than a couple of minutes before checking his phone -- you don't know if he's checking a game score, the exchange rate, or firming up plans for his second "first date" of the evening.