“Skype is different from Snapchat or text,” she said (Snapchat is a photo messaging service).
Mary does not think she is the only person who engages in virtual forms of sex, though she believes that sexting is less prevalent than media portrays it to be.
Sexting requires some degree of sexual liberation, she explained.
Another — a sophomore — used Skype for sex with her long-distance boyfriend, who graduated from Swarthmore last year.
She said that mostly, she would engage in sex over Skype in Kohlberg classrooms.
Over winter break, Mary* was chatting on Facebook with another Swarthmore student, John, with whom she’d been having casual sex for the majority of fall semester.
John requested to video chat with Mary and she accepted the call.
Video chat sex with John was not the first of Mary’s use of technology in a sexual capacity: during high school, she would send naked pictures of herself to boyfriends or those with whom she had hooked up.
“There are lots of naked pictures of me on people’s phones and computers,” Mary acknowledged, adding that she would often have phone sex with her boyfriend during high school.
“I knew that no one would actually do that,” Mary said.
For Sarah, Skype seemed to be a relatively safe form of having virtual sex.
Despite horror stories splashed across the news on the evils of sexting and the life-ruining capacity of naked pictures, Swarthmore students who use technology such as Skype and texting to have sexual interactions or exchange sexual content say they aren’t worried.