I am from a different world, a different religion, and when I say different, I mean it…
I am an Arab, a Muslim who totally respects you and admires you and I mean it with all my heart. and no matter how each of our backgrounds fear the other and view each other as the bad people, I am here to tell you, you have made me understand more and respect more.
Why are Orthodox guys (generally) more marriage-oriented than guys from the secular word? With Orthodox guys, though, they live a life of restriction (which Orthodox Jews are supposed to observe, though surely not all do) keep single men (and women) from touching any non (immediate) family member of the opposite sex.
Because in the rest of the world, men, while they’re single, are free to have as many escapades with as many women as they can manage to get. (As an aside, there’s a debate, but people in my circles will shake hands with members of the opposite sex who are not family members in order to not embarrass them.
We’re currently not together, but I’d really like to be again.
It seems like he would too, but he is not “ready.” I know it’s a commandment in the Torah for men to marry, but do you have any advice on how to turn a man who isn’t ready for commitment into one who is?
This is a post that could be said even to be outside my comfort zone, and, typically, nothing gets me all "ooo, what will the people say and think!? Not touching your boyfriend, significant other, partner, spouse. This is probably the most private post I'll ever write, and I'm okay with that because I think that what is known and understood about modesty and shomer negiah is misunderstood. I was a product of secular America and I dated boys, kissed boys, and hugged boys. Tuvia and I discussed being shomer negiah a dozen times or more, with me spearheading the effort.
" So what's the topic that has me a feeling a little squishy? Observing ta'arat ha'mishpacha (that's family purity). So here I am, hopefully to serve as an example and provide the positive, necessary experience that these aspects of being observant and Jewish can offer for your neshama. Then, Tuvia and I met in late August 2008, went on our first date Labor Day 2008, and were knee-deep in a serious relationship shortly thereafter. I needed to be shomer negiah, I needed that modesty.I’ve been sending JITC episodes to my dad and aunt to help them better understand my sister’s Jewish decision.Thanks for tackling things that can be really tough to explain!It has sincerely strengthened the relationship between me and my mother. Its been difficult to explain to my parents why I love Judaism & why I choose to follow certain laws now, however, JITC has been a great medium of explaining the Jewish faith that we never truly understood. But watching your blog brought me a whole different perspective. I’m a college student and, in part because of the curiosity about other faiths that your work instilled in me, I’m a religious studies minor.Most of the Mizwas that appeared pretty silly to me made actually a lot of sense after your explanation… I want you to know that you are making a difference not only in the lives of Jews, but in the lives of gentiles as well.Best, Beth from San Deigo Dear Beth, Thanks for your question.