When your partner becomes infatuated with someone else, you won’t be the center of their attention.
The success of mono/poly relationships depends on both partners accepting and respecting each other as individuals with different emotional needs.
We live in a mononormative culture that tells us relationships are only valid when they’re exclusive.
Mono/poly relationships challenge this unwritten rule because only one partner remains monogamous. As a polyamorous person, I’ve seen up close how a monogamist handles such a situation. She was easily one of the best metamours I’ve ever had.
(“Metamour” refers to your partner’s other partners.
Every functional mono/poly couple I’ve met understands that the poly partner’s needs can’t begin and end with one lover.
Metamours will eventually come into the picture and the poly partner will experience NRE, or “new relationship energy,” that intoxicating feeling of infatuation we’re all familiar when a fresh relationship is in its honeymoon phase.
With that said, the wife of my ex admitted to me that though her feelings of jealousy have waned, they never completely died and continue to occasionally pang at her soul.
She just learned how to deal with those uncomfortable emotions without taking it out on either of us.
Loving your poly partner for who they are means that you’ll also accept their desire to have multiple relationships.
Though my partner wasn’t thrilled about non-monogamy from the get-go, he wanted me to live a full life.
Sure, it took a little easing into after years of mononormative cultural conditioning.