There is no ‘logic’ to why these men do what they do but one thing that is at the heart of it is that if you are a woman that accepts poor behaviour from a man because she thinks it shows how much she loves him and how willing she is to make the relationship work, you only get penalised for it because the types of men that behave in this manner and watch you accept it recognise that you can’t respect or love yourself enough if you put up with their behaviour.
On some level they realise that if you want them, something be right.
This is the typical reaction when a friend suggests that maybe that guy whose been dangling you along for months is juggling a couple other women.
But, the guilty conscience associated with dating multiple people has been worn down over the years.
Let’s talk through this.” I probably would have gotten the information I needed a whole lot faster and would have saved myself many long days of wondering “WTF is going on? fortunately, I did get Facebook a month later, and let me tell you… For the rest of the school year and that whole summer, I’d impulsively sign on, clicking through not only his prom photos (Nikki wore a yellow dress) but all his summer photos that were filled with hot tub nights and lakeside days.
Leaving someone utterly confused on where their relationship with you stands is basically the emotional equivalent of hourly bikini waxes. No, it wasn’t because I confronted him about his hurtful actions. In hindsight, I wish I’d confronted him and said, “Hey, something’s up. So fortunately, I didn’t spend that evening stalking the prom I should have been at. I feel lucky I got to experience this heartbreak pre-social media post-, because I learned which one will heal you a whole lot faster, and it ain’t the one where you’re constantly overanalyzing the pretty girls your ex is hanging out with.
It was a sunny spring morning, and I was turning out of my driveway on my way to school when my phone rang. Things were going great, and in a short month, we’d be attending prom together.
We’d been childhood friends since the fourth grade, he’d recently written me a song on his guitar, and we were still religiously sneaking behind my ballet studio to make out between my classes. Especially when it comes to assclowns and habitually emotionally unavailable men, they need attention in the form of ego stroking, a convenient shag, and a smokescreen that let’s themselves believe that they are not the assclown that they actually are.Some need to prove they’ve still got ‘it’, some are afraid to look in the mirror and see themselves for what they are, some are afraid of what it means to have another ‘failed’ relationship, and some just like having someone there.Often with the next woman, she won’t put up with the same crap so he tries much harder.That’s not to say that he won’t revert to himself at a different juncture but right now (and you know that most of these men don’t think too far ahead), she seems ‘different’. If you met an attached guy and stood by his side whilst he went home to his wife, he’d mark you down for it.If you’re a Fallback Girl, they’ll slink back to you in between…