Sure, your “parts” will be appreciated — , “If you are attracted to people of both sexes, that just doubles the temptation.
If you start with the assumption that there are attractive things about maleness and about femaleness (the energy, the body, whatever), and you really like both, who’d want to give up both?
But bisexuality is a legitimate sexual identity, and being bisexual doesn’t mean that person is incapable of being in a committed relationship.
” That’s the logic behind the deep-rooted misconception that bisexual people are incapable of monogamy — or that the bisexual person is actually gay or straight (they’re not), which would cause them to leave you for someone of a different gender.
This fear is baseless and only causes unnecessary paranoia in the relationship.
Being able to sit with your potential bi partner and discuss the parameters of your relationship will be an effective trust-building exercise. Bisexual people are attracted to people of the same gender, as well as people who are not their gender.
Bisexual people can date transgender people, genderqueer individuals, and anyone else on the gender spectrum.
In fact, many bi individuals are quite selective in whom they choose for romantic or sexual relationships.
(That being said, if you’re one of the chosen, you must have it going on.) The distrust of bisexual people often stems from the perceived flippancy of the status.
I am not and have never been bi-curious, bi for attention or bi only when men are around. I blame the bi-hatred on the rise of girls I will call "Facebook Lesbians." These are chicks you see on social networking sites and in clubs and bars getting touchy-feely with their platonic girlfriends to get attention from men.
Since then, I've figured out that I'm solely into girls. But, alas, in parts of the gay community, being bi or being a lesbian who has hooked up with guys in the past is like having horns or an incurable disease. (Hello, boob circle photos.) They make being bisexual unacceptable in the eyes of some and are the reason even I can't say the word without putting air quotes around it.
Honest dialogue that breaks down insecurities will always deepen trust in relationships.