You become attached to this fantasy future and then you can’t help but stress over it and worry about losing it (even though it’s not something you ever really had! Then your fears and insecurities rise to the surface and seep into your interactions with him.QUIZ: Are You Accidentally Destroying Your Love Life?
When a girl loses interest in a guy after a few dates, she can usually pinpoint the reason.
Maybe he was too desperate, not intellectually stimulating, too quiet, too loud, too boring, too boisterous–she usually knows exactly what it is that turned her off and can give a reason as to why she doesn’t want to continue dating him if asked.
MORE: 5 Things That Turn Men Off to Relationships It’s not always like this for guys.
A guy can go on a few amazing dates with a girl and find himself suddenly and inexplicably put off by her.
You want to explore the possibilities with him and see what he’s all about.
It starts out light and fun, it’s about connecting and enjoying each other’s company.
Until recently, he was still paying her bills on top of his own (she refuses to get a job because she’s a “musician.”) She has custody of the kids and all he can talk about is getting custody of them, but I can’t get him to begin to take the steps he needs to go through to get to what he wants. -Caitlin Your question reminds me of one I got a year ago, in which a man wrote in that his girlfriend wanted him to get a divorce, but he wouldn’t because he was on his wife’s healthcare. He was clearly in love, but he was caught between a rock and a hard place, because getting married would cost him tens of thousands of dollars in medical bills.
On top of this, any time I bring it up, he accuses me of being worried he wants to go back to his wife. I just want him to be happy and it is obvious to me that he’s not happy in his current situation. It was one of the rare instances in which the majority of my readers disagreed with me.
You may learn that a divorce will cost him a lot more money in alimony than he wants to pay.
You may learn that the status quo is fine and that a divorce may hurt the amount of time he has with the kids.
He’s been separated from her for three years (she cheated on him).