Instead, take a day or two to mull over his answers and decide where you want the relationship to go.Think about what's important to you in terms of your current relationship.While you won't want to have his answers chosen for him ahead of time, you will want to think about what kind of answer you'd like him to give.
I use the pronoun his because more women are diagnosed with BPD; men instead earn the label antisocial much easier.
Interesting enough, it is frequently the healthier mate seeking therapy to relieve himself from the immense relational pressures.
It’s overboard across the map: When it’s good it’s great – but when it’s bad it’s really bad.
There is no middle ground when standing at the borderline.
Often the individual with BPD threatens self-harm or cuts to release tension.
She will relentlessly reach out and obsessively try to reestablish the broken bond if the healthy mate decides to break up with her.Nevertheless the healthy mate wonders, “Why are we on these constant roller coaster rides?” Sooner rather than later he starts to resent walking on eggshells around his lover.They are very impulsive; volatile moods and angry outbursts are the norm; deficits in social perception and social skills become even more apparent when disappointments occur.Plus co-occurring disorders such as substance and eating disturbances, reckless spending and mood disorders add to the emotional burden.Remember we all have personality traits, which does not make us personality disordered.