Asking your boyfriend these questions could save you from the heartache of a broken engagement or, worse, a future divorce.
Try not to jump to any immediate conclusions during your question-and-answer episodes.
I use the pronoun his because more women are diagnosed with BPD; men instead earn the label antisocial much easier.
While you won't want to have his answers chosen for him ahead of time, you will want to think about what kind of answer you'd like him to give.
Think about which points are non-negotiable, and which issues you are willing to compromise on.
When your relationship is still fresh, it's nice to get to know the silly basics of what makes your man tick. Your boyfriend's answers to these questions should help you determine if the two of you have enough basic compatibility to live together on a daily basis.
If you reach the stage where the two of you are talking about marriage, it's time to discuss major life issues before you get engaged - not after.
Often the individual with BPD threatens self-harm or cuts to release tension.
She will relentlessly reach out and obsessively try to reestablish the broken bond if the healthy mate decides to break up with her.
If you find his answers are not compatible with yours more often than not, you may want to cut your losses early.
Of course there are always ways to compromise when someone is very special to you.
It’s overboard across the map: When it’s good it’s great – but when it’s bad it’s really bad.
There is no middle ground when standing at the borderline.
Her heightened sense of emotions and difficulty to soothe herself leads to major drama even when a partner is willing to stay and work with her to overcome the challenges.