So if you're a single person considering such a relationship, ask yourself: "Does having an affair with a married person deny me the respect and concern I owe myself?
" If you have any doubts about this, maybe you should cool it down a bit and think about it, because no one can lessen your self-respect except And I hadn't thought of it, before.
If adultery causes a certain amount of total harm versus benefit, and this makes it wrong or not, it wouldn't matter whether we take the perspective of the married or single person.
It may very well be--I'm not judging, by any means--but it's something you might want to think about. I want someday to do something for people in these situations; in the meantime I have started a blog also at live your dream blog dot com. Jacqueline How about the other woman wait until the man becomes available?
and am currently the cover story on the blog for and also have a story on Divine Caroline - What if the Other Woman is the Right Woman? Instead of just grabbing what belongs to someone else.
I have often wondered, in my situation, being with someone who (when we are together) cherishes me and treats me with great esteem, affection, and attachment, what precisely hurts when that person must go and be dutiful to the rest of his life (read: the partner to whom he is committed).
It shouldn't hurt; it shouldn't be inadequate by any rational standard. Sometimes, I think our emotional lives resemble Russian novels more than we want to think.
If we're basing our ethical decision primarily on harm and benefit, or consequences in general, then the analysis will be the same regardless of which person we're considering.
Consequentualialist evaluations are often called , which means they don't depend on the identity of the person considering the act.
If they leave, it's their OWN DECISION to step out of the marriage. Accept that and you will understand that you really weren't married in the way you perhaps thought you were. White, thanks for continuing this interesting thread.
By definition alone a single person can't commit adultery. This one reminded me of other articles on the PT site that discuss the issue of bullying, specifically how the bully is the one most hurt by the bullying.
(Of course, a man can feel the same way.) Or, the single person may feel a deep respect for the institution of marriage itself that obliges him or her to respect other persons' vows.