Obviously the ick factor of a your husband having an affair with his wife’s mother is high.
Y’all have an open marriage, he could theoretically be with anyone in the world, and he chooses your mom?
I can have a glass of wine in the morning and drink until I pass out in the afternoon and wake up when my lover comes home and go to the pub with him and start drinking again.
My mother is the one having long talks with my husband at night, or going to a nice restaurant with him or the theatre and I am at a grubby pub every night with my alcoholic lover.
I have started stalking them, sitting in the car down the street from our house, drinking vodka from the bottle, and watching them come out hand in hand to play tennis in the courts down the street or go out to dinner.
Your mom is always going to be the mom who dated your husband.
You’re framing it as “” but your husband did just as much stealing and breaking of trust.
And your mother chooses the one man in the universe who is married to her daughter?
That is some unfathomable shitheadery right there, from both of them. I don’t believe that there is romantic love that is somehow divorced from the choices you make about what to do about your feelings.
I have had a string of long-term affairs and short-term flings.
During the past 8 months I have basically been living with another man in a neighbouring town to the one I live in.
It sounds to me like you left him, slowly, on the installment plan, and then he decided to hasten the end by setting everything on fire, including the bridges. When you agreed to an open marriage, did you both envision a situation where either or both of you would move out for long periods of time?