Most were also pretty international, could speak English and were looking for a chance to meet non-Japanese people.
Overall, I’d say that they were also more gentlemanlike than their western counterparts and most didn’t make me feel like they were only looking for sex.
After a particularly gloomy weekend, I decided that some no strings attached action sounded a lot better than no action at all.
This might go back to scams that happened in the 90s.
Websites would require men to pay fees to subscribe in order to call beautiful women.
I was new to the online dating scene and a little hesitant at first.
That was back in the days before Tinder became popular and online dating wasn’t as socially acceptable.
After wasting months subtly pursuing a guy at work only to discover he had a girlfriend, I quit the Japanese way – and bento making, also described by my friends as a boyfriend magnet in Japan.
Two of my single western guy friends suggested online dating – as long as I wasn’t looking for anything serious.For one, it takes time to find quality matches, especially on Tinder.You will also probably have your share of disappointing dates…Where western guys would perhaps try to kiss you goodnight or try to invite themselves for a late night coffee, Japanese guys would awkwardly shake your hand, at most.I never had to make the first move back home, but I quickly understood that if I wanted anything to happen on the first date, I would have to put on my big girl pants.Most first dates were a bit nerve-wracking, as you are after all meeting a complete stranger or potential psychopath, but getting to know each other was quite easy.