I was stunned when a client reported to me that her new partner was coming over in the middle of the night and leaving before her young children were awake.What if her child woke up during the night to find his mother?
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One of the biggest risks of introducing a new partner too early is that the relationship will end and the child will experience another loss.
I recommend that a parent date for at least four to six months before involving the child in that new relationship.
Can you imagine his experience finding her in bed with a strange man? When they become teenagers, how will you be able to teach them about responsibility and appropriate sexual activity if their childhood included a stream of your lovers that spent the night?
If we focus on our children’s needs following a separation or divorce, we will hopefully slow down and keep our perspective as new relationships bloom.Most middle-years children need some time to adjust to their parents' separation before their mother or father begins having new romantic interests.In general, a good guideline is about a six-month wait from the time you separate from your spouse to the time you start to date, although dating will often occur sooner.Inevitably, after separation and divorce, most of us venture out and begin new romantic relationships.Sometimes a new relationship begins at the end of a marriage that was emotionally barren.Dating and new relationships can be complicated, but appropriately integrating children into a new relationship is even more of a challenge. From what I have observed, most people introduce the children to their dating partners far too soon after the new relationship begins.