Children must begin the process of living in two houses, often have to change schools, and they also must learn the complex task of remembering what can and cannot be spoken about in either home.
Dating and new relationships can be complicated, but appropriately integrating children into a new relationship is even more of a challenge. From what I have observed, most people introduce the children to their dating partners far too soon after the new relationship begins.
Whether this is because a primary parent does not have sufficient free time to date when the children are with the other parent, or it occurs because of the loneliness that many of us feel as single parents, kids usually get involved with their parents’ new partners way too soon.
You should talk with your child about your new adult friends.
Allow your youngster to express her feelings and opinions.
Can you imagine his experience finding her in bed with a strange man? When they become teenagers, how will you be able to teach them about responsibility and appropriate sexual activity if their childhood included a stream of your lovers that spent the night?
If we focus on our children’s needs following a separation or divorce, we will hopefully slow down and keep our perspective as new relationships bloom.
Some fathers feel unsure about how to spend blocks of time with their children without a woman present; some mothers are anxious to quickly introduce a “better role model” to their children and have the family that wasn’t possible with the children’s father.
Neither situation serves the child’s need for time to adjust to family changes.
Has it been enough time in between dad leaving and/or the divorce for your kids to need an additional change?
Divorce brings up many life changes for kids and another one is not what they need right away, unless there's been some time between big life changes.
One of the biggest risks of introducing a new partner too early is that the relationship will end and the child will experience another loss.