It’s not because you’re not good enough and it’s certainly not because they need to retreat from the relationship to renew their desire; it’s because they’re unavailable, inconsistent, controlling, and not worth pursuing a relationship with. Baggage Reclaim is a guide to learning to live and love with self-esteem by breaking the patterns that stand in your way.
"ADHD is a disorder of self-regulation and self-control," Russell A.
Barkley, Ph D, clinical professor of psychiatry at the Medical University of South Carolina and ADHD expert, tells Buzz Feed Health.
In my mind, I would get involved with someone, incidentally who I probably didn’t even like that much, and they would be blowing seriously hot and then ‘something about me’ would make them become unavailable and start blowing lukewarm or cold.
I believed that they were great guys offering great relationships and that if it weren’t for my flaws, they’d still be the same guys I’d or been led to believe that they were offering.
Once you end up playing this game and realising that cutting them off, threatening to end it, mentioning that you’re seeing others etc makes them step up, albeit only for a short time until they realise that you’re back under their control, you’re trying to mess with supply and demand. Keep doing these things in order to get attention from them?
It’s only a matter of time until they recognise the pattern and then they will even become half-hearted in chasing after you. Blowing hot and cold is ambivalent, ambiguous, inconsistent, contradictory, unreliable, unstable and yes, at times, assclownary.most of them are at least somewhat more narcissistic women).What we're talking about here when we say a girl is a "crazy girl" is that she is . She may function perfectly in every aspect of her life besides romantic / sexual relationships, but that's unimportant to us here for our purposes - this website is about selecting women as lovers and long-term partners, and we're most concerned with how those women are going to serve in those roles, how they'll affect us, and how stable (or not) they're going to be in that position.Not one of these things are remotely attractive or ‘exciting’ – they’re eject button worthy.It takes a thoughtless and/or rather self-involved individual to actually think that not only can they do this, but that they can essentially pull the same con on you numerous times without being noticed. You cannot forge a mutually fulfilling relationship with someone who blows hot and cold, so why waste your time?Blowing lukewarm or cold should be a wake-up call if not the exit bell ringing.