Almost every 20 something that signs onto a dating site is looking for those things.
Women on here look for the same thing here that they do in real life. The want a guy they find attractive (to them) that is fun and a good guy. No they are not going to settle for someone they dont find attractive just because he thinks he is a "nice guy". And it has nothing to do with being on a dating website unless you in some way view those women as desperate. This is a way that average women can expand the scope on available men to meet.
That does not mean they are desperate and will date any guy.
Although, I do have two friends on here that use this site strictly for ego boosts. I got tired of constantly being contacted by men I had no attraction to or by men I was attracted to but were as transparent as saran wrap about their intentions. Seriously, if these guys are looking for relationships, which is what it says on their profiles, you'd think they would be more creative with their pick up lines.
So I was using this site for dates before but now it's just for the forums. Also, you're completely right about the "Ego Boost". This is actually a really great question because it makes me think.
Are they looking for a potential wealthy, handsome man?
Or are they simply looking for a super-model and will not settle for anything less? They want someone they think is at least sorta cute and is intelligent and fun.
Or are they simply looking for a super-model and will not settle for anything less?
This goes back to my answer to your first question.
I also observe that those who have either negative attitudes, are desperately lonely, have poor self esteem, are impatient, unrealistic and don't know it, feel entitled, or have overly romantic outlooks seem to fair worse.
Because I have had success (meaning finding a long-term partner) three times on various web sites, I don't consider these sites a waste of time, or full of flakes and liars the way many paint them.
I'm quite aware that this question differs from person to person; but looking at it from that perspective, what are they looking for precisely?