Odds are good that they may well be going on dates, as well; not everybody is going to put all other interactions on hold Getting over-invested in one person is a great recipe for frustration and needless heartbreak.
If dating is akin to fishing (hence “Plenty o’ Fish”, from the stale platitude “there’re plenty of other fish in the sea…”) then you want to be fishing with .
To abuse the metaphor further, you want to be tossing as much out there as you can and seeing what floats to the top. Some people are just going to disappear off the face of the earth with no warning.
It’s one thing when you’re meeting women in person – unless you’re a graduate of the Lando Calrissian Player School, then you’re only going to be flirting with one woman at a time. Even if someone seems perfect on paper, you have no idea how well you’re going to work out in person… Even two or three dates isn’t enough to preclude things not working out.
Look, there are untold numbers of reasons why people don’t respond to online dating messages…
and they don’t necessarily have anything to do with never know.
The best thing about it, though, is that it’s a no-lose situation.
If you ask and she says “yes”, then congratulations! If she says “not yet,” but suggests maybe another time soon?It’s a way of saying “I know you’re probably not going to write back to me, so please notice me noticing you and do the hard work for me…” If you’re interested in them, send an email already!Much like stressing about the opener, the first email is there to get them interested enough to write back.Feel free to write out the “about me” section in advance; it’ll save you time in the long-run and it allows you to fine-tune it rather than hitting “send” and then kicking yourself because you realized you could’ve said something wittier. If you had a chance, what would you do to wind down after a long week? A little about me: I’m $AWESOME_ATTRIBUTES_X, Y and Z… Like I said: you seem like you’re a really interesting person and I’d love to get to know you.So a (very generic) example would be: “Hey, you seem like you’re cool and I wanted to say “hey.” So… Hope to talk to you soon, YOUR_NAME” Give it a somewhat offbeat subject line in order to stand out from the crowd – I’ve always had success with “Pirates are inherently cooler than ninjas” – and send it on its way. If you’re not the most assertive or confident person, you may not feel comfortable asking somebody out on a date early on.Sometimes it’s something fixable – your profile isn’t exciting, your spelling is off…