Thank you for being such a strong role model and helping me to see my value and begun to love myself and put me first. I have experience this with a guy that I’ve dated and could not for the life of me understood how he could jump into a relationship so quickly without ending the relationship.
The breakout on your forehead begins to read “FML” in Braille.
Rebound relationships, once understood and identified, will actually help you get over your ex, your breakup and your heartbreak much faster than trying to FBI-investigate, stalk, obsess, drink, hot-selfie post and gossip your way out of it, ever will. Everytime I miss him I come to this blog and read it. You talk about whatever I need on right moment Love you. I love your last picture on Instagram as well I’ve heard he’s been dating countless of girls but its only one date and he goes to the next date some even the same day.
And reading all of this really made me realize things, i thought because me and her were so different it couldn’t be a rebound because this time he had found a girl who was different and good for him but then i realized it is just a distraction he’s never gone longer than few months without a girlfriend so he always needs someone there to fill the void and it doesn’t mean she’s different/amazing/way better than me. Seems so crazy to everyone we know but your friends advice sounds pretty legit.
I can truly say that your statement about tying his actions to your value, the white horse and being the one who got away has really begun to transform my thinking.
In basketball, after someone attempts to shoot the ball, whether the player makes it in the hoop or not, the opposing team is suppose to grab the basketball quickly enough to bring it to their side of the court without the other team getting another advantage to shoot. He has been with an old flame ever since we broke up and it’s quite possible that they were messaging whilst we were still together which helps explain why he didn’t want to work on things as this was our first ever bump in the road for our entire relationship, so it didn’t make sense to me that he just wanted to give up until I realised there was another girl on the scene.
In the same way, my ex went to grab a person (the rebound) at a fast pace to hopefully make a score. I don’t think he’s dealt with any emotions, but I don’t know if he actually has any because he can’t be that sad if he’s moved on already.
Your article is so helpful – I read it most days as I find reading and actually believing it takes time. My ex of three years dumped me 4 months ago completely out of the blue two days after his grandma died.
I really loved him and i genuinely thought he was as happy as i was.
He claims he wasn’t cheating but I don’t know what to believe. He says now he just wants to get married and have a family – he knew that’s what I wanted.
So I can’t keep comparing myself to this new woman and dreading the announcement of the inevitable engagement.
He showed up at a club I was at after we had split and not had contact in a week.me dancing with another guy.a few days later, he’s made it known on his social media that he’s back with someone he dated way before meeting me…”I am so glad I found you…right person…right time” Only thing is…she’s my manager…granted I knew all along they were friends and kept in contact.