Thank you for being such a strong role model and helping me to see my value and begun to love myself and put me first. I have experience this with a guy that I’ve dated and could not for the life of me understood how he could jump into a relationship so quickly without ending the relationship.
I haven’t seen or spoken to him in 30 days and am letting my actions speak for me. It is true about the family not knowing because his mom didn’t even know he was seeing someone else. He is now engaged to someone else and I felt a little down about it because everything just happened so fast. This post and others of yours have really helped as i deal with the break up of a 4 year relationship 4 months ago…
I came home to a note on the table after 12 years and the day before he was telling me he loved me.
The emotional abuse I felt was devastating and I never want to feel that again.
You start bracing yourself for the inevitable proposal that was supposed to be yours while you scroll through the Instagram of her Aunt’s daughter’s prom date’s sister’s brother. I read that someone said this in another comment on the last post, but you do really look exactly like Kate Beckinsale. Yup yup yup the inevitable conundrum of unanswered questions and tying my worth to what my ex might be in now, the famous unreliable source to move on “the rebound.” I’m very familiar and the term rebound. We were together for nearly 8 years, very much in love until the last 6 months we each had some stressful times at work and I had a death in the family.
It is almost as similar to what the term rebound is used in basketball. Unfortunately it took its toll and we drifted apart, but just as things were getting better he said he wanted to break up.
You know, that thing you’ll never label your ex as being in because you’re more comfortable convincing yourself that he’s a changed, f*cktard-no-more, emotionally available, empathetic prince that’s now with a new/hot/cool girl who’s everything you never were and never can be.
He’s doing everything with her that he wouldn’t do with you, no matter how hard you tried.
I have to see my ex in a few days for an obligation we both committed to before our break up and this blog post eased my heart for that moment and for the future.
I have read TONS on rebound relationships…and I am continually convinced he’s in one.
After the execution-style-emotional-gang-bang-psychological-mortal-combat-level-impossible that is breaking up, the next step is moving on. I know there was one he like but she didn’t like him back.
You may have even gotten to the point where you start to feel yourself getting better, thinking about him every few hours instead of every.single.f*cking.second. He hasn’t really been successful even if he shows up he has more than one date per day.
F**K it hurts for sure.I do not want him back…he didn’t treat me very well…I know he hasn’t changed…but UGH he really pushed the pain button in me…thanks for this…