When friends began to point out other red flags about our relationship, I took some time to seriously seek God’s will on the matter.
I’d been struggling with making a decision about this particular relationship for at least a year.
My best friend/roommate/soul sister was moving indefinitely to Austria. He said, “I’ll call you soon.”I said, “No, you’ll call me tomorrow. I went home super late that night because I had to nanny early the next day. Since we knew that we wanted to get married, the next question was…I knew that he was the one. ”So we tried to elope that night, but it was 2 in the morning and the wedding chapel was closed. [This was easy for us to decide because we both felt the same way about one another. He grew up in a stable, modest home, and he has a wonderful family. My needs were always met financially, but emotionally, my life was exhausting. I felt safe with him knowing that he grew up in the way I wished I had. I want to give my children what I never had growing up…emotional stability, consistency and parents who love and respect one another.
I believe that God pairs us up with people that complement the gifts, talents, and personalities that He has given us – if we let Him. The guys I dated before I began dating my husband were not all bad guys. We genuinely cared about each other and had fun together.
But in each relationship there were things that didn’t feel quite right.
His job often seemed more important to him than our relationship, and he would repeatedly put friends or family before me.
For someone whose “love language” is spending quality time together, that was a major issue.
This isn’t a blog post telling you that the way I married my significant other is superior to the way you did. Our story is not what most would consider normal in today’s day and age. Each guy I have dated has been very different from the last.
It’s just that…some stories are more culturally accepted as normal.
I know that sounds harsh, but let me explain my theory on Christian dating. But I do believe that if you are seeking God’s will about who you date, He will lead you to someone that is a true fit for you.
I don’t mean that your future spouse will be perfect or that you will think alike or always agree on everything. But I do believe that if you seek God’s guidance, He will lead you to the person who is going to be the match for you.
We didn’t have a registry, receive thousands of dollars, monogrammed towels or knife sets. It’s Don’t feel like you need to do what society expects of you in order to have a lasting, healthy marriage or relationship. We are lucky to live in a country in which you can do whatever you want.