One of the most significant things that highlights these types of relationships from others is that both people take accountability for who they are and are able to admit where they are going wrong. They will still have their own problems and troubles to face, but the difference is that issues will be handled with maturity and also good communication.
When someone is willing to put their hands up and accept their flaws half the battle has already been won.
The thing about grown-up love is this—we are not going to be able to get it until we learn to be grown up ourselves!
When we aren’t being grown-up, we portion the biggest amount of blame onto the other person.
Just like with food, there are a variety of things we need to fully nourish our bodies—and it is the same with our minds.
Although this does not mean that monogamy needs to be tested, it does mean that accepting that individual friendships, hobbies and interests are essential to keeping ourselves healthy and our hearts full.
I also used to think that love had to be a little messy to keep it exciting.
I believed that without drama relationships were calm but boring, and that it was okay to be a little volatile at times.
I had been involved in intense dynamics whereby we foolishly believed at the time that if our relationship ended, our whole worlds would crumble with it.
Now, I see clearly how juvenile that was and how it was keeping us in a parent-child dependency rather than allowing us to function as two grown adults.
I realized that I only needed myself to be able to live fully.
I didn’t need to depend on anyone else for love, happiness or anything else.
We need to be open and accepting of each other’s unique paths and work hard to offer unconditional love.