It was as if I had somehow entered the "No Blacks Allowed" Twilight Zone.
As I looked through the long list of acceptable ethnicities on a potential mate's profile, my heart would sink when my race was left off his list of racial preferences.
While my classmates laid out in the sun, desperately trying to bronze their bodies, I found myself trying to do the opposite.
Sun damage was not my concern, and skin cancer hadn't even entered my vocabulary.
Or why 1 in 12 Black males will have to deal with incarceration…
In other words, we overlook the power of systemic forms of oppression and focus on the one male in question.
But as I later learned, colorism didn't just exist in places without people of color. Colorism is the principle that those with lighter, fairer skin are treated with a higher regard than those with darker skin, and it happens both between racial communities and within them.
Media outlets have long been accused of using Photoshop to lighten darker-skinned folks in order to make them more appealing to the masses.From news articles to protest movements, there is increasing focus on how the fallout of Black male underdevelopment impacts the females in their lives (the daughters, wives, mothers, etc.), and although there is nothing inherently wrong with looking at such impacts, it is being done INSTEAD OF looking at Black male underdevelopment, as if it is not valid that it hurts Black males on its own merit, but that it is valid only BECAUSE it hurts Black females.So in the article tagged below, like so many others, Black male oppression is only relevant because it leaves Black women with fewer dating options, but says nothing about how this form of social erasure and economic underdevelopment impacts Black males, especially now that Black women’s empowerment has become a necessity because of Black male erasure.It exists everywhere, in all cultures, and in all races.When I joined a dating site soon after relocating here, I learned that colorism was alive and growing in one of the most diverse cities in the world.Users could state their racial preferences in a partner, and even though you'd think people would be turned off by someone who said they only wanted to date certain races, most people included this info.