Someone who is, let’s say, 35 has much less understanding of the world and people than someone who is 60.You do not have to beat them on the head with this, but throw in a few hints.Most people are very surprised to learn that adult stepfamilies, that is, those that are formed in the second-half of life and include adult stepchildren, have just as many transitions as stepfamilies with younger children.
New Beginnings I strongly encourage both adult stepchildren and the new couple to educate themselves about stepfamily living.
There is a labyrinth of emotion and practical transitions to work through and it takes understanding and effort by both generations. That’s the beautiful thing about love—there’s always room for one more!
From there things have continued to go downhill at a rapid pace.” Lorain’s experience is not uncommon, nor is her idealistic assumption that a marriage with adult children who no longer live in the home will not be impacted by the dynamics of loss and loyalty.
Thankfully, adult children and stepparents do not have the same power battles that younger stepfamilies experience because the stepparent is not trying to get the children to pick up their socks or choose better friends.
After that, they should be self-sufficient adults with enough knowledge about the world to survive without you.
You may also arrive at this point in your life if you get divorced or become widowed when they are already adults. Very often, adult children have problems with their parents getting back into the dating game.
Seeing you alone (for any reason) complicates things. On a very deep emotional level, this can be difficult to overcome. Another reason why children can be against you dating is that they actually want to protect you.
Building on this, they might actually see your desire to date as a betrayal of your “original (in their minds)” partner. Perhaps your previous spouse did not treat you well.
In any case, you are a senior, your kids are grown-ups and you want to start dating. And as their parents, whether we like it or not, we still do have a responsibility toward them. How do you tell them you are dating again and how do you make them accept it?