Seeing you alone (for any reason) complicates things. On a very deep emotional level, this can be difficult to overcome. Another reason why children can be against you dating is that they actually want to protect you.Building on this, they might actually see your desire to date as a betrayal of your “original (in their minds)” partner. Perhaps your previous spouse did not treat you well.The issue here is that this can be for any number of reasons.
Lorain, a reader of my monthly E-Magazine for stepfamilies, wrote asking how she might strengthen her relationship with her 19, 24, and 26 year-old stepchildren.
“I was 49 when I married for the first time; my husband was 55. My husband kept his children up to date about our relationship and things were pretty civil until we married.
It is only natural that they want to prevent this from happening again.
These are just a few reasons as to why your adult children might be resisting the idea of you dating again.
Once you have put your finger on why your children have qualms about your future dating plans, you need to explain your decision to them.
You need to make them understand that you are a person like everyone else and that you are looking for love or companionship like everyone else.
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It may take a great deal of time for you to open your heart to a stepparent and their extended family.
Most of us have this idea of life where you spend the first fifteen to twenty years of your kids’ lives taking care of them, after which you take back control of your own life. As all of this is happening, many people cease to be in relationships that gave birth to these kids and they tend to put dating on hold until the kids are grown-ups in their own right.