He advises newbies to introduce themselves, to jump into the chat and start talking.
You can't just log into a webcam community and get laid, any more than you can join an online role-playing game and hook up without making any further effort.
You have to spend some time, talk to people, form relationships, and maybe – just maybe – sex will happen.
The draw now is the community itself, the relationships he has formed over time."I like coming home and chatting with people," he says.
"Often the conversation in the room is pretty superficial, but talking behind the scenes in IM can get more substantive."He does admit to the occasional "wank session," though.
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It sounds harsh, but it's what keeps a core of 30 or more regulars returning to the room, week after week."Women have told me they like to come to our room because we don't mess around," he says.
Getting booted is not the end of your cybersex chances.
However, we also wonder if this really is a new behavior.