We’re taught that goodness comes from service, and change in this world, if you want to become a legend, a real leader, a real man, and an alpha male, you have to be more self-centered.
A man’s focus shouldn’t merely be on building a business, but building himself.
The business is a thing, his spirit, soul, his impact on the lives of others is what will live on.
Your family is better off if you’re at your best, if you somehow actually reach this unattainable goal that is your true potential. Not an average man doing average things, but a man who dares mightily, and even may fail on an equally grand scale. This idea of becoming more self-centered can be difficult to articulate without going too far in one direction for a number of reasons.
For one, all of the guys I know who are successful, be they in their businesses or in life, are generous beyond belief.
So the notion that self-centerdness has to come at the cost of generosity is false.
They go hand in hand and you’re not being generous for your own gain you’re being generous because being generous makes you better and it makes you feel better. Being disciplined and focused makes you a much better man.Self improvement and development and becoming great is selfish, it has to be.The thing is, in becoming great everyone around you benefits. And a man needs to take care of business before his family because if his business fails he can’t take care of his family.Regardless, I had to take a step back for a second.Here I was, having been taught to help first, that the man who gives everything away is good and pure, it’s a lie.To reach your true potential you must focus on those things that make you great and the things that make you great aren’t necessarily the things that feel good. It takes courage to move away from the life that you could very easily live. Not just the courage it takes to fight honorable battles, but courage to do what no one you know has done, but if there’s an itch there, a flickering flame fiending for the fuel that will allow it to grow and breathe, you must feed it for you know that the only way you’re going to truly be happy and satisfied is if you enter this dark arena of the unknown.