That’s why if you’re dating someone who is Chinese, it’s very important you make a good first impression with the parents!
As you may expect, dating is a little bit different in China than it is in most Western countries.
The basics are the same—people are people everywhere—but there are still a few differences regarding culture and social cues to note.
This is a big part of why dating is often taken so seriously.
Chinese young people often feel like they don’t have the time to “play the field” that their Western counterparts are afforded by society.
For a lot of Chinese people, serious dating starts after they’ve finished school.
More so than Westerners, many Chinese view dating as a pragmatic affair.
Of course, these are all just generalizations, and they don’t apply to all Chinese people.
More than tradition, society, or culture, dating in China is governed by what the specific individuals in the relationship think and feel, and it’s not too hard to find Chinese couples that don’t fit all or even any of the general observations above.
Because of China’s rigorous college entrance examination, dating is rarely tolerated among high school students. That doesn’t mean that Chinese teens don’t have high school crushes or even relationships (mostly secret ones).
But in general, Chinese students leave high school with a lot less romantic experience than their American counterparts.
Do not spend much time talking about work or college, it doesn’t usually bring a smile to anyone’s face.