This is why sexual attraction is occasionally reported in adoption reunions, some claim in as many as 50% of cases.The flip side is something Lieberman calls her "template hypothesis." All people form a template for the world based on the people and their surroundings during development: what men and women look like, what their roles are, etc. This is common for non-related couples, too, psychologist and sex expert Isadora Alman notes."Many couples experience the feeling of being instantly attracted to someone that is familiar in some way, whether it's a physical reminder of someone beloved or something else they can't put their finger on," Alman says."For siblings, this drives an enhanced sexual attraction." Which is exactly what happened to Melissa and Brian. "Melissa wasn't the reason I left, but she was the catalyst.
Then, her father committed suicide, and soon after, she says, her mother's mental health began to decline."I had to be her caretaker," Melissa says, sharing about her mother shoplifting, peeing in public, and "other weird behaviors." Their home life got difficult.
Her mother's boyfriends often lived with them, and she let her teenage daughter have guys stay overnight.
But, he admits, her photos made him feel "very turned on ...
I thought, ."Two days later, Melissa drove two hours during a Monday night Midwestern snowfall to meet her brother.
The friend immediately inundated her with articles on GSA.
"I felt a little bit better seeing that this is out there and I wasn't crazy," Melissa says."Love at first sight is a real phenomenon."But it's been suggested that this feeling is even stronger for consanguineous (a.k.a.related) couples, especially those who don't develop the ick factor from growing up together. "Genes tend to shape our preferences, talents, and attitudes — and familiarity creates comfort, so we look for someone similar," Lieberman says."She spoiled me rotten and let me do anything, probably because she felt guilty for hiding who I really was."In January 2015, a Facebook friend request came from Chris*, a man she didn't know — and her world shifted drastically again."When I messaged to ask how I knew him, he said, 'If I really told you, you wouldn't believe it,'" she says.He said he grew up knowing his stepfather had a secret child out there, and even tried to contact Melissa years before, but her mother always intervened. "Of course, I was flipping out."She asked to meet Chris in person.