I was excited to see some great conversation happening in the comments of my piece “The Top Three Mistakes Men Make in Online Dating.” Both men and women shared their experiences with online dating and debated over the mistakes and fixes I offered in the piece. How do you reconcile a trillion different preferences in order to offer men advice on what to do to be successful with online dating? All I can do is set some parameters and offer my advice based on my own experiences and hope that it helps at least a few guys out there.
A commenter on my “Three Mistakes …” piece said someone kept messaging them the word “hi.” Just “hi.” I don’t think that really “wowed” them.
This is one of the most difficult areas on which to give advice because this is the “coffee” of the online dating world (if you skipped the intro to this piece and went straight to the tips, this reference probably made no sense).
Don’t you both deserve to have your profiles read carefully and thoroughly?
After all, if online dating profiles are a part of the whole online dating process, why skip that step?
I used to think this was shallow advice, but it all comes down to honesty.
One of the men I met through an online dating site thanked me for looking exactly like my photos because one woman he went on a date with ended up gaining a significant amount of weight since the photos she posted were taken.
For those who put some real thought into their profiles, there’s some really valuable information there.7.
Don’t be afraid to make the first move: Do “traditional” dating rules apply in online dating (i.e. Truthfully, I don’t think traditional dating rules should apply in offline dating. Write a quality first message: We all know competition is fierce in the online dating world, so why waste time writing non-memorable introductory messages?
That means they also don’t have time to answer every single message they receive in their inbox.